Code Name D.A.D. … Defeat Anger Daily

November 21, 2007

Wet Wednesday #47

1) what are you and your partner’s sex rules when you are staying at a friend’s or relatives’ house? verboten? only if the kids (if applicable) are in another room? ok, if you promise to be quiet? oh, baby, that pumpkin pie really gets me going!? It all depends on the friends. Usually if the kids are in bed and we are in the mood it can happen.We do try and keep it quiet @ the parents though. Hell, with a lot of our friends it can and has turn into a group thing!!!

2) what are your sex rules when others are staying at your house? Mostly, Don’t let the kids see ya.

3) ever get caught (or catch someone else) doing the holiday nookie? Nope, not yet!!!!! And here is hoping for an opportunity to get caught tomorrow!!!!!!!! Are you reading this, da Missus???

Have a great, and safe, long weekend.

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November 15, 2007

Wet Wednesday #Who Knows

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i just spent the entire morning and part of the afternoon upgrading to leopard on my macbook. and my IT guy? DELICIOUS. unfortunately, he’s not on my menu.

1. is there someone that you work with that you have a ‘crush’ on …Yes or simply makes you drool? Yes…And they may or may not be the same person.

2. at your job, is sexual banter the norm, or are all bawdy jokes strictly off-limits? What a hilarious question. Believe it or not….BOTH!!!!! Sexual banter is officially TOTALLY TOTALLY off limits, and still goes on ALL THE TIME!!!

3. have you ever "dipped your pen into the company inkwell," or have you learned that you would not "take a shit where you eat"? WOW….How do I answer this?? There was a certain someone who I once worked with who part of the reason we did not hook-up @ the time was due to us working together. That lead to extra exciement. Now she does not work there and we (I think) are on the verge of something special. Of course there was a different girl who I did NOT work with who came to visit me @ work and…I will always smile knowing what happened in that office.

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October 11, 2007

Wet Wednesday….En Mass

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1. how thin is TOO thin for you in a lover? is it someone like kate bosworth, posh spice, or mark anthony? It’s Funny, what I look at versus what I chase. I think Nicole Kidman is the hottest thing in the world to look at, but to actual be with, I like them to be on the plump side.
2. how ‘large’ is too big for you in a lover? (i’m not going to list any names as terms like large, overweight, and big are all part of individual taste - but feel free to list celeb names, etc.) I have no clue, so much of the turn on is attitude.

3. if you were to get a new lover and this weekend was your first time having sex with them. how would you feel about them seeing you nude? is a look in the mirror in the buff cringe-worthy, or are you lookin’ pretty damn good? I am looking better than I have in years, but all I still see is I am too fat.

29 August 2007

ww#40 … emotional.

as a family member of a paranoid schizophrenic, please note that i am not calling anyone ‘crazy’ or demeaning them by talking about mental illness or physical disability in this week’s ww. i’ve lived through the pain of mental illness, as well as experienced its immeasurable joys…

1. have you ever dated someone or had a lover who had an emotional or mental disorder? how did that work out? if you haven’t dated anyone with an emotional/mental disorder, would you? I think that EVERYONE I have dated has had an emotional disorder.

2. have you ever dated someone/took a lover who had a physical disability? what, if anything, did you do differently to accommodate them sexually? if you have never dated anyone with a physical disability, would you? (remember - we’re not judging; some people are unable to handle a lover with a disability, and that’s a personal choice!) I am married to someone with a physical disorder. Fibromyalgia. Only thing it has done is limit contact at times.

3. do you have mood swings (hormonal or otherwise) that affect your relationship? if not, have you dated someone who "swung pretty hard"? Oh hell yes. I can be seriously moody. I try to keep t in check but that just makes everyone around me know I am in a bad mood because I am so quiet. And once again, I think nearly everyone I have dated has had serious mood swings. Maybe I attrat them. Who knows????

21 August 2007

ww#39

1. i was looking at the responses to a question on popsugar.com, where 90% of women had never had a one-night stand. have you ever had a one-night stand? did you see that person again? Yes, I have. And we saw each other socially for a whiule and never could get the timing right to hook up again.

2. what is the strangest or non-traditional place you’ve had sex? Middle of a collage stadium football field or Joe Poole lake in the middle of a Saturday afternnon on a holiday weekend. LOTS of people around.

3. is there something non-traditional (spanking, bukkake, bondage, midget porn, foot fetish, etc.) that turns you on? what is it, and have you had anyone freak out on you due to the fact that it turned you on? I like pain. Only a very few have know that and one was my Mistriss for a while

08 August 2007

w.w.#38 - timing.

1. what’s the shortest amount of time you’ve ever had sex (with a partner, that is)? It was so quick I am afraid that you would need nanoi seconds to time it

2. what’s the longest amount of time you’ve ever had sex? I once had an entire 3 day weekend of nothing but sex

3. what’s the longest you’ve gone without sex? 18 months

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August 1, 2007

Wet Wednesday #34

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1. have you ever been so ashamed/embarrassed about your body or yourself that you could not be intimate with someone? why, and what did you do about it, if anything? Not really.

2. what is the part of your body you feel worst about, and why? what are you planning on doing about it, if anything? Would have to be my beer belly. Actually, I have done a lot. I have lost 40= pounds this year. 20 more to go

3. what is the part of your body you feel best about, and why? Right now, funny to say a lot of it is my belly at the moment. Justbecause I have seen how much it has gone down. I do get comment a lot about my eyes though.

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July 11, 2007

Wet Wednesday …..Another Catch up post

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WET WEDNESDAY #35

Our regular contributor Lola is off to see The Police tonight. Knowing how badly she wanted to see Sting, Andy and Stewart….

Ladies (sorry to be sexist here), have you performed a sex act on a roadie, doorman, etc. in order to get backstage at a club or concert? Not a lady …

If so, once you got there, were you able to get it on with your rock idol? Still not a lady

Gents, have you ever cashed in on a groupie wanting to get backstage? Nope

If so, how did you negotiate that deal (Can I get a witness)? I’ll be a witness

If you have been (or are in) in a band, what’s your best groupie story? Was in a band….Was to stupid to do anything with the "groupies" we had. Gawd, I was a moron

Wet Wednesday #34

voyeuristic!

happy 4th of July to our U.S. players this week.

1. have you ever been photographed in a compromising position, without clothing, or in a sex act? why or why not? Yes, very recently. da Missus and I were really get into "HNT" and decided to have some fun. Never had before due to partners with NO libido or creativity

2. have you ever been videotaped in a compromising position, without your clothing, or during a sex act? why or why not? Yup……Happend very recently also. Was much fun

3. has anyone ever watched you in/perform a sex act, or have you ever watched anyone perform a sex act? why or why not? Yup……Watching is just a natural part of group activity

see you next week!

Wet Wednesday # 33

PAIN.

please note that this week’s WW is about CONSENSUAL PAIN or accidental pain … not pain due to rape, torture, or the like.

1. have you ever had a sex injury? what were you doing, and how long did it put you out of commission? Got racked once or twice. Out for less than 15 minutes.

2. have you ever injured yourself doing something (sports, exercise, breaking an ankle by accident, etc.) so much so that you have been unable to have sex? Broke my hand and that sure curtailed a lot of activities.

3. what is the furthest you would go pain-wise sexually with a partner, either it being done to you or you doing it to them? this can include biting, spanking, slapping, hair-pulling, punching, pinching, nipple clamps, and so on and so forth…) At this moment, I really do not know. There is so much I am wanting to and willing to explore if I can just find the right partner.

Wet Wednesday #32

1. what is the age of the youngest person you would ever date? 253

2. what is the age of the oldest person you would ever date? As crude as it sounds, It all depedns on how they look.

3. think about your answers above. if you were going to have a sexual-only relationship, would the ages differ? by how much? why? Seeing how I am with my life mate, anything extra WOULD be purely sexual, so it would not matter.

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May 31, 2007

Wet Wednesday #31 A little Late

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1. who was the last person to crush/hit on you that you were NOT attracted to? I have a number of gay friends at work who are very adamantly trying to get me to switch teams. Probably one of them

2. who was the last person you crushed/hit on that was not attracted to YOU? HHHmmm…..83.4% of the women I hit on. Maybe more…

3. have you ever done anything sexual with someone you were not attracted to? why did you go through with it? Yes. I still ask myself that nearly everyday.

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May 16, 2007

Wet Wednesday #29

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No, I did not miss a week….THEY did

1. have you ever crushed on, hooked up with, or dated anyone you’ve worked with? how did that work out? Tried a few times, but have not had a lot of luck with it. Now, on the other hand, da Missus and I worked together for awhile…

2. have you ever reported or ratted out any office romances (including your own, perhaps for a bit of sweet revenge?) at your workplace? what was the result? No, no reason to.

3. i have a confession … i had sex with The Husband on my boss’ desk a few years ago. have you ever had sex in the workplace? where was it? and, more importantly, HOW was it? Once a little bit of idle groping. It was actually across the way in the training complex. It was so so. Oddly enough, da Missus and I worked together and never managed. Of course, we were not as daring back then.

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May 9, 2007

Wet Wednesday #28 A week late

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Hey it IS wednesday now…..

1) Your partner inquires if you’d be interested in inviting a third person to join you in the bedroom. Ole!, or no fucking way Jose? OLE’!! OLE’ !! OLE’OLE’OLE’!!!!!!!

2) The third person is the opposite sex as your partner (ie. woman inviting another man / man inviting another woman). "Let’s get ready to rumble", or "No way, I ain’t sharin’!" Still working on that one……

3) The third side of the triangle is the same sex as your partner (woman inviting another woman, man inviting another man). "Bring on the tongue-in-groove action baby!", or "There’s no way I can get it up with another guy in the same building, much less the same room." I can roll with this one ALL NIGHT LONG!!!!!! (And Have, but that is for another post)

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April 18, 2007

Wet Wednesday # 26

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1) What one sexual fantasy have you thought about (but never acted upon), but would definitely do if the opportunity presented itself? Strangely enough, while I am very non-Aggressive and non-violent, I have always fantasized about a "rape" fantasy where I take her by force. But if given the opportunity, I would still probably never act on it due to the fact I usually have to much respect for my partners to try it. I guess I really did not answer that one. I am still awaiting another FMF with da Missus.

2) When you fantasize, is there any one specific act, individual, or scenario that you find yourself thinking about more often than others? Walking in and catching da Missus with another woman. As they finish, they look up and see me there and proceed to use me physically in everyway imaginable.

3) What fantasy, image, or thought can send you over the top (or at least, right up to the edge) in no time flat? ~~Nicole Kidman in a swimming pool filled with strawberry-banana Jell-O.~~ Even after 8 years, memories of the first weekend with da Missus still rock my socks.

Stop now if Wet Wednesday is all you want!!!

Wow, did this blog bring up all kinds of thoughts. Right now da Missus and I are doing so well in so many ways. And, in my opinion our sex life is still quite good, but, we are "missing" in many ways. I want long slow night long love making sessions. She wants hard quick fucks. She wants to explore D/s, and I just am not able to be Dominate for her. When I try and go rough, I hurt her, but not in a sexual way, but more of an “I annoyed her and am doing it wrong” way.

I hope this is “just a phase” (I hate that phrase), but what if it is not? Is this why we have the open marriage? Are we (she) seeking other partners due to needs not being filled? Are we going down a path of we have sex with each other out of desperation or lack of choices?

Am I just being paranoid?

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February 22, 2007

Wet Wednesady (First Time, be Gentle)

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1. without penalty or reprisal (or exposure by the paparazzi), which celebrity would you have a sexual evening with? Angelina Jolie. She might kill me before the evening is out, but OH MY, WHAT A RIDE

2. is there a celeb that you think is attractive, but does nothing for you sexually? Britany Spears (Even when she had hair)

3. what is your feeling about a MMF threesome? have you gone there, or would you?

4. what is your feeling about a MFF threesome? have you gone there, or would you?

5. do you talk to your friends about your sex life in detail? Not to much of the nitty gritty Specifics, but there are a few friends that know a suprising amount…

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